这是男人的心声吗？

好想有个太太，为我做饭烧菜。 　　

现实却很无奈，让我仍需等待。 　　
也因寂寞难耐，谈过几次恋爱。 　　

谁知屡战屡败，轻轻松松被踹。 　　

其实我也奇怪，为啥总被淘汰。 　　

历尽打击伤害，总算知道大概。 　　

嫌我不讲穿戴，嫌我长得不帅。 　　

嫌我个头太矮，嫌我没有气派。 　　

熊猫长得不帅，却受世人关爱。 　　

丑是自然灾害，矮是因为缺钙。 　　

做人只求正派，讲啥穿戴气派！ 　　

我们这个年代，注定缺少真爱。 　　

女人不是太坏，就是心胸狭隘。 　　

或许除此之外，还有部分可爱。 　　

只怕时至现在，早已有了后代。 　　

面对这种事态，不要气急败坏。 　　

我们除了忍耐，至少还能等待。 　　

只要相信真爱，她就一定存在。 　　

要么咱就不爱，爱就爱个痛快。 　　

没有爱的灌溉，生活百无聊赖。 　　

只有好的心态，才能保持愉快。 　　

爱情也有好赖，绝对不可草率。 　　

我是愿意等待，哪怕青春不在。

Groceries Reveal Easing of Crisis

In official statistics and influential surveys, there have been signs that the worst of the recession may be over, and that is reflected in the all-important baked bean sales figures.

In the three months from April to June, baked bean sales were up 15% compared with the same quarter of 2008, according to figures prepared for the BBC by the market researchers Nielsen.
That sounds impressive, but it shows a slowing in the rate of growth. Every month from November 2008 to May 2009, sales of baked beans grew by about 20%. Then the brakes were suddenly put on, with growth of only 9.9% in June and 8.7% in July

In the three months from April to June, baked bean sales were up 15% compared with the same quarter of 2008, according to figures prepared for the BBC by the market researchers Nielsen.
That sounds impressive, but it shows a slowing in the rate of growth. Every month from November 2008 to May 2009, sales of baked beans grew by about 20%. Then the brakes were suddenly put on, with growth of only 9.9% in June and 8.7% in July

Sales of supermarket budget lines showed the same slowing of growth, with 18.5% growth between April and June. Sales of budget lines had grown by more than 24% each month from September 2008 compared with the same month the previous year, but then tailed off from April, and only grew 10.5% in July.

Both baked beans and budget lines are what economists describe as inferior goods, because people tend to buy more of them when they have less money.So a slowing in the growth of their sales may be seen as a sign that people think the recession is easing. The opposite appears to be true of organic food, sales of which have been in a fairly steady decline since the start of the recession. They fell again, by 12.9% between April and June compared with the same period last year. Olive oil sales have been jumping about throughout the recession, being seen, on the one hand, as a luxury product for which there are cheaper alternatives. But on the other hand, it has benefited from people cooking at home more - and so being prepared to spend a little extra on ingredients.

There is another sign of potential recovery in sales of emulsion paint, which are seen as a good indicator of the state of the DIY market as well as the state of the housing market.
People tend to buy emulsion paint both to do up their houses before selling them and to personalize a new house if they buy one. Emulsion sales have been consistently falling for months. Between the start of 2008 and the end of March 2009, there were only two months in which more paint was sold than had been in the same month of the previous year. Then in April, sales suddenly improved, with sales in the three months from April to June rising 16.2% compared with the same quarter of 2008. "The fact that paint is growing is a very good sign because it shows that people are putting money into their houses," says Stephan Lamouroux, an expert on the DIY market at GfK (Nürnberg Gesellschaft für Konsumforschung, Germany's largest market research institute). But he warns that it does not necessarily mean that the housing market is about to take off. "There are still segments in the DIY market that are declining, such as power tools, which tend to be linked to bigger DIY projects," he says.
So it may be that people are buying paint because it is a relatively cheap way of improving your home, but are still not feeling good enough to spend money on bigger renovations.
There is some support from our unusual indicators such as baked beans; budget lines and paint, for the more conventional indicators that suggest the economy may have bottomed out.

Undeniable power of LOVE ( Father and Son )

How much can love be ?
This is the most touching and inspiring video ever...

One day, a son asks his dad "Daddy, would you like to run a marathon with me?"
The father says "yes". And they run their first marathon together.

Another time, the son asks his dad again "Daddy, would you like to run a marathon with me? The father says "yes son".

One day, the son asks his father "Daddy, would you run the Ironman with me?" The Ironman is the most difficult triathlon ever (4 kms swimming, 180 kms bikin, 42 km running?) And the dad says "yes".

The story looks simple until you watch the following clip. Just amazing, how much can love be.... ?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VJMbk9dtpdY

时事分析 ：经济与教学

经过六年执行运用英文教导数理，如今“英文数理此事又成为了我国的焦点新闻”。 今天得知从2012年，大约两年后，全国国小与国中将采用母语来教导数学与科学。如此可说，我国政府即将采用大约一年的黄金时间来改造此项政政策。由此可见，我想各位读者都有自己的看法，那也请各位读者想一想，会否一年的时间“太长”还是“太短”。其实，我们可以运用时间的长短来横量一个政策的重要性，及有关当局对此项计划的关心程度。

自2012年起，各源流小学将会恢复使用母语教授数理，而国民中学则会以国语教数理。在新政策下，国小将会恢复以马来文教数理，华小与淡小则分别以华语及淡米尔语教授数理科。新政策将会分阶段推行，即从2012年开始，进入小学1及4年级的学生，将使用母语学习数理科；进入国中1及4年级的学生，则会以国语学习数理。不过，中六及大学预科班却不受新政策的影响，将会继续以英语学习数学及科学科。 由此，我相信一部分的人名将会担心我们下一代的英文水平，若废除以英文教数理，那么我们小孩学英文的时间不就是钱少了吗。慢着，让我们先看看我国政府为我们孩子所造设的相关政策。 为了达到加强学生英语水平的目标，政府将会增加英语课的节数，让学生更有效地学习英语。这些宣布包括：

（1）增加英语教师1万3933人，包括1000名外国籍教师。

（2）增加国小1及2年级英语科的每周上课时间90分钟。

（3）增加华小与淡小1年级英语科的每周上课时间60分钟；2年级则增加30分钟。

（4）增加国中1至6年级英语科的每周上课时间80分钟。

（5）增加国中6年级的大马大学英语考试（MUET）的每周上课时间80分钟。

（6）增加大学预科班英语科的每周上课时间100%，即从原有的3小时增加至6小时。

（7）在小学2年级推行“孩童文学计划”，鼓励学生阅读文学经典。

（8）在各校建立“英语教科室”，以让学生更有效地学习英语。

当然，从这一观点而言，废除与英文教数理之政策，并不忽略提高我国的英文水准之宏远。虽然，此政策听来真的不错，有全面性的设想，但是无论是任何改革，换朝，新政策都得需要时间来筹备，都得需要时间来进行一个完整的改变。很可惜，每一次都会有一些有关人士，会在此事，大胆放言，说要立即执行次政策。当然，我觉得这是一个笑话。当然能够说出此言的有关人士，是有地位，有资格标明的人物，可惜如果想借此机会来提高自己的名誉，增加社会人士对自己的信任，我倒觉得此人不可靠，是不含成熟思想的领袖。若要执行此任务，有关当局必须于老师们，从新编制教育内容，印刷新课本，培训教师等工作。这一切一切都需要时间与金钱的支柱，才能够成功的实行。 但是，事情当然不能只看表面，每一件事情，我们都得从各方面的角度来观察。因此，我想利用一个比较不同的观念来看待此事。每当一个新的政策需要进行时，此活动的消费当然不小，数目可会庞大，如果有关当局每两年，三年就换一次政策，那么一座金山也会变成平地。虽然，金钱不是来自自己的口袋，这数目是你和我的血汗，所以每一个决定都牵涉了每一个人。一旦一个政策已决定，那么就得排除万难，坚持到底，要有恒心把那决定的效果一一的实现来报答百姓的支持及信任，而不是随意变动。执行一个好的决定就是对平民的效劳。其实很多读者可能不晓得，每一个重要的决定都会牵涉到一个国家的经济状况。不管是巨大的还是微小影响，始终还是有影响。要建设一个稳定的经济背景，领袖就得把每一个细节都算在计划书里边。因为，如果这个政策需要改革，那个政策需要改革，所有的决定都不能长久，那么要达到一个稳定经济平台就会有更多的挑战了。

最终，希望我们的师弟师妹们，能够拥有美好的教育，塑造一个经济稳定的安宁国家。 “国泰民安” 是靠你和我一起努力和付出换回来的事实。

时事分析： How bad the financial crisis is ???

Sekian lama telah aku menjadi ahli separuh lelap http://www.blogspot.com/ , kini, sesuap semangat Bahasa Melayu mengendah benak ku. Justeru, Bahasa Melayu menjadi pilihan saya sebagai titi bahasa untuk menyampaikan sedikit sebanyak suara hati yang terpendam dan ikhtisar tentang situasi economi yang melanda negara kita.

Tuan tuan dan puan puan serta para pembaca,

Sering terpampang di muka surat akhbar, laman utama internet, isu khas berita, topic pembahasan dan forum serta isi perbualan harian rakyat di "kopitiam" ( tempat makan and minum ) tidak terpesong daripada konteks kemelesetan ekonomi semasa.

Dengan ini, orang ramai telah menjadikan isu kewangan sebagai isu sensitif dan ia telah mengatasi isu perkauman dan isu september 16 yang hangat diperbicarakan sebelum ini. Tertaluk pada akta Keselamatan Dalam Negeri 1960 (ISA), isu-isu yang sensitif dan dianggap akan mengungkitkan rusuhan and kekacauan dalam negeri adalah dilarang sesama sekali. Biasanya isu-isu yang diharam itu adalah isu yang sensitif dan pekik telinga setelah lama mendengarnya. Jadi, adakah isu kewangan yang mencatatkan statistic tertinggi dalam frekuansi perbualan harian itu akan dihalang oleh akta 1960 itu? Adakah rakyat biasa yang berbual-bual di "kopitiam" itu akan ditahan dan dilokap bawah akta 1960?

Fenomena biasa dalam pentadbiran, pihak-pihak tertentu akan mengambil kesempatan terhadap isu sensitif yang menjadi focus orang ramai sebagai senjata dalam mesyuarat ataupun semasa bertikam lidah. Oleh yang demikian, para pembaca boleh menggunakan isu kewangan sebagai pembaris untuk mengukur kelincahan dan keberkesanan perlaksanaan pihak tertentu. Sebaliknya, cuba memperhatikan reaksi pihak lain terhadap isu kewangan. Sudah pastinya anda akan menampak tektik-tektik mengkaburi penglihatan rakyat bermain di depan mata anda sendiri. Rakyat kian hari kian miskin, tetapi ada juga segolongan orang yang kian hari kian berada. Itulah yang patut diperhatikan pada setiao masa dan ingat jangan sekali sekala melupakan perbincangan sebelum ini hanya dengan sebab ekonomi yang menurun ini. Jangan lupa sebab-sebab kita mengeluarkan fikiran kita dan faktor-faktor kita menentang. Bahaya, keadaan ini bahaya, sebab, pihak tertentu besar kemungkinannya akan memperalatkan isu terhangat semasa, isu kewangan untuk "cover-up" tutup perbincangan perbincangan yang membebankan kepentingan mereka.

Sebagai sebuah negara yang pesat membangun, kegawatan ekonomi semasa telah mendatangkan beberapa kesan negatif terhadap proses pembangunan negara kita. Kemerosotan ekonomi ini dianggap sebagai ancaman ke-2 kuat selepas kemelesetan ekonomi pada tahun 1997. Jelasnya bahawa semasa kemerosotan ekonomi sedunia melanda, pemain-pemain utama ekonomi seperti US dan UK akan menghadapi pelbagai cabaran, tidak kurang juga kesannya terhadap negara-negara yang menjalinkan hubungan perdagangan dengan pemain utama ekonomi global itu.

Dengan keadaan yang sukar ini, perbelanjaan daripada luar negara terhadap product tempatan akan meningkat tanpa sangsian. Sebab, product pengeluaran negara kita adalah lebih murah jika dibandingkan dengan harga barang di US dan UK. Jadi, mungkin anda berfikir bahawa, keadaan ini tidak membantutkan pembangunan negara malah telah membantu situasi ekonomi negara kita. Ya, betul tetapi bukan betul sesemuanya. Ingat tabiat perbelanjaan seseorang pengguna adalah fleksibel terhadap kemewahan tetapi agak kental terhadap keperluan. Pengeluaran negara kita banyak bergantung kepada product-product sektor sekunder ekonomi. Jadi flaktuasi perbelanjaan adalah kurang hebat. Mungkin eksport negara telah meningkat, malangnya peratus peningkatannya adalah kecil dan telah dipampas oleh index keturuan dalam sektor lain yang menyumbang kepada catatan pembangunan negara. Sudah pastinya, dalam situasi yang pasif ini, bank-bank telah hilang "liquidity" ataupun cairannya. Bank tidak sanggup untuk mengambil risiko yang tinggi dengan memberi pinjaman kepada para pelabur mahupun pelabur asing ataupun pelabur tempatan. Tanpa model, projek projek pembangunan negara ditunggahkan. Peratus pembangunan negara terbantut. Ketidak puas hati rakyat telah dizahirkan, pihal tertentu akan menggunakan alasan ini untuk menuding jadi kepada kerajaan kita, menuduh perlaksanaan kerajaan tidak efektif tidak berkesan, malah tidak berupaya untuk memperbaiki ekonomi negara. Dengan alasan-alasan ini, rakyat sering terpengaruh dengan hujah hujah pihak tertentu, dan mengadakan demonstrasi dan pembentangan terhadap kerajaan.

Sebagai rakyat mahupun pemimpin negara, kita semua patut berganding bahu bersama sama mengatasi cabaran kemelesetan ekonomi negara tanpa melahirkan masalah masalah yang remeh temeh untuk membebankan negara. Bersatu kita teguh, bercerai kita roboh. Kini bukan masanya untuk merampas kuasa dan bukan masanya untuk membebankan lagi rakyat. Dengan ketidak stabilan politik, negara kita tidak mungkin akan terlepas daripada ancaman situasi ekonomi yang patut dibimbangkan ini. Dengan kewujudan masalah-masalah perebutan kuasa, beraksi seperti kanak-kanak dalam pentadbiran, cuba mengada-adakan masalah remeh temeh itu hanya akan melambatkan kita daripada proses pemuliahan daripada situasi "global fiancial crisis" ini. Haraplah, semua pihak boleh mengabaikan kepentingan diri sendiri demi kerperluan rakyat jelata. Berhenti bersikap seperti enau dalam belukar, melepaskan pucuk masing-masing. Haraplah, pihak pihak tertentu hentikan prasangka buruk dan bias, dan mula berkerja sebagai satu unit untuk merealisasikan wawasan 2020 kita itu. Janganlah disebabkan ingin membalas dendam terhadap apa yang telah jadi kepada diri sendiri dan merosakkan seluruh negara. Jangan disebabkan nira setitik, rosak susu sebelanga. Sebagai insan yang maha mulia, lupakan dendam ; kejarlah impian nurani negara !!!

Sebagai konklusi suara hati, para pembaca termasuk saya patut pegang kuat kepada pedoman hidup kita, menjaga tabiat perbelanjaan kita, jimat cermat dan teliti dalam perancangan hal ehwal kewangan peribadi. Demi tanah air tercinta kita, berfikir sebelum beraksi.

Sekian terima kasih.

生活加油站 ：Story of a pencil

we are like the pencils

One day, the pencil producer tells the pecils

"there are five things that you must know before I send you out into the world,

and you must always remember them in order to be the best pencil"

1. You will be able to do and achieve a lot of great things if and only if you allows yourself to be held in someone's hand.

2. You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, but this is essential if you want to be a better pencil.

3. You have the ability to correct the mistakes that you might make.

4. The most important part of you will always be what's inside.

5. No matter what condition, you must continue to write. You must always leave a clear, legible mark no matter how difficult the situation.

Now, views this into yourself

1. You will be able to do many great things, but if only you allow yourself to be held in God's hand, and allow other human beings to access you for the many gifts you possess.

2. You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, by going through various problems and plights, you will definitely need it to be a stronger person.

3. You might be able to correct mistakes. You might make or grow through them.

4. The most important part of you will always be what's on the inside.

5. On every surface you walk, you must leave your mark. No matter what the situation, you must continue to serve humanity in everything.

Everyone is like the pencil, created by the power of maker

for a unique and special purpose

By understanding and remembering this

let us proceed with our life on this earth having a meaningful purpose

in our heart and have relationship to the mighty power, GOD, daily

Sheffield Game !!! Ga/uys splendid appointment !!!

It has been quite a while since we last met each other.

It has been quite a while since our last football game.

It has been quite a while since we last "kutuk" each other.

Here, out of the blue, all dudes decided to meet up at the sheffield game, treating a football game instead of football match as a valid reason to resume the ever disunite Ga/uY spirits.

As we all expected, our team was named as " JAC FC " for the specific reason. One of the members has his very precious asset (not to mention here), which can lead the team to a glory. Unfortunately, the key player wasn't there for the 1st and 2nd matches, thus, we didnt win... After a post-moterm session among the members, eventually we discovered the main cause which attributes the the disaster by being defeated 6-0 from the home team. The reason was, the miracle asset which can attract the attention from other team players was not there. We expected that with the power of JAC's asset, we can drive away the concentration of other team players from the ball to the "balls-like thingy"...Sad...sad....but Fun!!!

After the matches, we went to sheffield town to have a little gathering...end up, we were in PIZZA hut!!!

Before we saying goodbye...haha...cant imagine, the situation where a group of guys went "jalan-jalan" at the Sheffield night market "pasar malam"...haha

Anyway, I would say it was really nice to meet all of you guys again... Hope to see all of you again in the very near future. See you guys....real soon...!!! Yo....ROCK JAC FC !!!

真人真事 ：跪妻男 ！

所谓：“人非圣贤　，谁能无过”在这世上，有谁没做过错事呢？天下之大，做错事的人可说是数之不尽，多得数不清，但是知错了，愿意认错，改过错误，薾补自己过错的人却少之又少。不用说，如今的社会里，很多人都不懂得说“对不起”，都不能够鼓起勇气认错.

这个片段里的青年人，非常有大男人主义的丈夫，因为想得到爱妻的原谅与宽容，不禁放下大男人的尊严，不怕别人的嘲笑，不理会别人对他的看法，不怕日晒雨淋，向老天爷发誓，为爱妻下跪。若是在家里，在房里下跪还没什么惊讶，可是这男人却选择了在公众场所，在一间购物中心的对面，下跪，那里一天有千千万万的人走过，他不怕别人的讽刺，一心的只求爱妻原谅他，再给他最后的机会。“知错能改，善莫大焉”愿意改过自己的错误，难道就得不到别人的原谅吗？他又没有杀人放火，不至于把他打入十八层地狱吧？一定要把他逼到绝路才行吗？一定要判他死刑？

话说来，这种认错方式还蛮戏剧化的。就像戏剧里的内容一样。但是，各位读者，你觉得用这种方式来请求原谅，真的有用吗？你觉得用这种，借用大众的同情心来逼迫自己的妻子原谅他，对吗？或许是得到了原谅，那是最真诚的原谅吗？还是应为压力，害羞，必不得已，模糊的情况下而作出的决定？

各位，请想一想，为什么这位年轻人需要落得如此的地步，难道就没有其他的认错方式吗？当然，我觉得，由于之前已近用尽了办法，所以不出绝招不行。由此可见，很明显的，它虽然凡的不是杀人放火之罪，但他所犯的错，足以伤透了他爱妻的心，五年里不只没知错，更不用说认错，而且还变本加厉，到外头“９３９４”找外遇。去外边“偷吃”。他由于得不到爱妻的原谅，原因只有一个，就是，他的妻子已经对他绝望，他的妻子受够了。一段美满的婚姻，竟然搞得如此的结局，真叫人痛心。由爱到很！

心理医生全集（王一良　编著）里有说到，“男人是多情的动物　；而女人则是痴情的动物”。个人觉得，这句话倒是真的有如此时。无法否认，男人是容易动情的，一个甜蜜的笑容，一段关怀的句子，一个迷人的眼神，一个难忘的约会足以让一个男人，对异性产生好感。虽然，女生就不会那么的轻易喜欢上一个人，但是，一但女生爱上了他的白马王子，她就会爱的很深，甚至会用自尽来了结一段失败的感情。有了妻子，还在外头“滚”的男生就应该被判下罪行，那法官就当然是但是当时者啦。可是，单身的男人，就因为像选出自己心底最心仪的对象，而同时有几个好感的异性朋友，那是一个罪吗？每个人都有选择的自由及权利，当然，不管是男生还是女生都可以选对象，但是，一但有了男女朋友，开始交往了，那就有责任在身了。有了责任，就不可以再“乱来”，这时，有了男女朋友还去追求，其他的异性，那这就叫做“花心”。所以要选就因选最好的，而不是只为了一时的贪玩而，后悔莫及。尤其是在这思想开放的世纪里，性行为可说是普遍，但千万别忘记，要为自己所做的一切负责任，不单是男的许负责任，女的也当然有责任。如果还没准备好，还不能够负起那责任，就绝对不可以“乱来”，别倒是才说“早知今日，何必当初”。

Ｐ／ｓ：各位读者，让我们一起，“把爱穿出去”好好的爱你身边的每一个人，你的家人，另一半，师长，朋友，及所有的众生。别等到“错过了，才懂得珍惜”，倒是可能太晚了，“别等到做错了才认错，最好就是避免犯错！”ＰＲＥＶＥＮＴＩＯＮ　ＩＳ　ＢＥＴＴＥＲ　ＴＨＡＮ　ＣＵＲＥ　提防是最好的解药！

佛缘：伦敦第一间佛寺 ！

Visited to the 1st Buddhist Temple in London !
今天，突然心血来潮，就答应了一位朋友的邀请到一间泰国佛寺去参观。这间佛寺的历史及创办可以在以下的叙述得知了解

佛寺看起来虽麻雀虽小，但五脏齐全。看起来来非常的庄严。




这就是佛寺里的小课室，专用来打坐，弘法，教佛课，及一切活动的进行场地。
最后，这就是师父们所居住的（Kuti）啦！很美吧！当然来佛寺可不能空手而来吧，所以就买了一些日常用品及一些干粮和米来供僧咯！！！

The Buddhapadipa Temple is situated at 14 Calonne Road, Wimbledon, London SW19 5HJ

Wat Buddhapadipa in London was the first Buddhist temple in the United Kingdom, established by the London Buddhist Temple Foundation with the objective of creating a centre for the dissemination of theoretical and practical Buddhist teachings in Europe.
This temple has been under the Royal Patronage since 1965 when it was originally located on Christ Church Road, Richmond. It was moved to its present site in Calonne Road, Wimbledon Parkside in 1976. With the support of the Royal Thai Government and the Thai people, the Foundation erected an "Ubosot", a Thai style building for monastic ceremonies. The celebration of monastic boundary, held on October 30, 1982, enabled Wat Buddhapadipa to become a formal temple according to Thai tradition: in fact, the only Thai temple ever built in Europe.
From the start,Wat Buddhapadipa has actively promoted theoretical and practical Buddhism in London as well as in other cities of the United Kingdom and in countries such as the Federal Republic of Germany, the Netherlands and Switzerland. It has thus become one of Europe's most important Buddhist training centres. In 1986, when the British Museum organized an exhibition "Buddhism : Art and Faith", a London newspaper even commented that there was no need to go far in order to understand Buddhism, since visits to the British Museum and Wat Buddhapadipa should suffice.
The grounds of the Temple cover a monastic area of approximately four acres in which the Uposatha Hall is situated on an ornamental lake, a small grove, flower garden and an orchard. The Temple consists of the House where the monks live and a cottage. On the ground floor of the House there is a Shrine room, a Dining room, A study, a Library, a Cloak room, an Office, a Kitchen and Telephone room. The rest of the House is the place for the monks. The Uposatha Hall or the Temple is constructed place for the traditional Thai style on the monastic area.

p/s : Sadhu... Sadhu... Sadhu...

My 1st Valentine's Day - 2009

Every February, across the country, candy, flowers, and gifts are exchanged between loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine. But who is this mysterious saint and why do we celebrate this holiday? The history of Valentine's Day — and its patron saint — is shrouded in mystery. But we do know that February has long been a month of romance. St. Valentine's Day, as we know it today, contains vestiges of both Christian and ancient Roman tradition. So, who was Saint Valentine and how did he become associated with this ancient rite? Today, the Catholic Church recognizes at least three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus, all of whom were martyred.

One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men — his crop of potential soldiers. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine's actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.

Other stories suggest that Valentine may have been killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons where they were often beaten and tortured.According to one legend, Valentine actually sent the first 'valentine' greeting himself. While in prison, it is believed that Valentine fell in love with a young girl — who may have been his jailor's daughter — who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter, which he signed 'From your Valentine,' an expression that is still in use today. Although the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories certainly emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic, and, most importantly, romantic figure. It's no surprise that by the Middle Ages, Valentine was one of the most popular saints in England and France.

While some believe that Valentine's Day is celebrated in the middle of February to commemorate the anniversary of Valentine's death or burial — which probably occurred around 270 A.D — others claim that the Christian church may have decided to celebrate Valentine's feast day in the middle of February in an effort to 'christianize' celebrations of the pagan Lupercalia festival. In ancient Rome, February was the official beginning of spring and was considered a time for purification. Houses were ritually cleansed by sweeping them out and then sprinkling salt and a type of wheat called spelt throughout their interiors. Lupercalia, which began at the ides of February, February 15, was a fertility festival dedicated to Faunus, the Roman god of agriculture, as well as to the Roman founders Romulus and Remus.

Eventually, 14th Feb is a not unique in being unique day to me. It could be just as simple as a Monday, contrastly, it could be the most romantic moments for you and the one you love. Simple yet symbolic!!! I just celebrated my 1st Valentine's Day, and I perceive:

True Love doesn't come by

finding a perfect person;

but to see an imperfect person

as perfect !

p/s : Happy Valentine's Day to everyone ...

时事分析 ： Is sexual desire entering a recession?

Valentine's Day, by tradition, is an opportunity for declarations of love and lust. But will 2009 be different?

Given the economic downturn, is passion too in recession? Or will couples fling themselves into each other's arms to compensate for their inability to spend, spend, spend? Professor Helen Fisher, of Rutgers University, holds this latter theory. The sheer stress of money worries in general, and fear of redundancy in particular will, she argues, elevate levels of the chemical dopamine in the brain - and dopamine is associated with romantic love. "Times of stress can trigger feelings of attraction - quite simply, you're more susceptible," she said. Professor Fisher's theories are based on a classic 1974 study by Dutton and Aron - in which male subjects walking across a dangerous-seeming bridge were found to be more likely to fall for an attractive woman researcher. They are currently being reinforced by a flurry of less academic reports.

Website traffic
Dating websites eHarmony and Match.com both report major boosts in traffic of up to 20% over the past few months. A YouGov survey of 20,144 British adults in November 2008 found sex was the most popular low-cost activity. Sex toy shops as far apart as Amsterdam, New York and China are anecdotally reporting a boom in sales. And, according to Ken Herron, chief of marketing at gay dating site Manhunt, the site had its biggest membership sign-up on 29 September, the day the Dow Jones Index crashed. The logic here rings true, absolutely reflecting what I as an advice columnist am seeing in my postbag. Surely when people feel alone, they reach out for connection, seek out pleasure in the form of skin-on-skin contact?
Surely when people need relief from their financial worries they reach for the natural medication created by body contact, which releases the feel-good chemical oxytocin?

Negative impact
However, at a certain point, this logic breaks down - and the very opposite appears true.
Relate, the couples counselling organisation, is seeing in established couples a different picture from the sexfest Helen Fisher describes. Denise Knowles, Relate sex therapist, said: "Economic uncertainties can cause people to become more anxious - with the added dimension of people trying to get another job, or working longer hours to cover for a partner who has lost theirs.
"In the end, they are simply less likely to want sexual activity at the end of a long day."
In addition, the very anxiety that may be fuelling the initial desire to bond sexually may also sap the ability to experience pleasure. Self-esteem classically drops during recession, particularly for those who actively lose their jobs. Equally, respect drops for a partner who is economically less successful. Then, desire plummets along with the esteem and respect. And even if desire remains constant, ability to act on that desire may be compromised. A lack of self-confidence has often been cited as affecting male virility - the classic 'performance anxiety' - and a lack of emotional security during lovemaking as affecting female arousal.

Money and satisfaction
It is also arguable that economic reversal is affecting sexual completion too, at least for women. A recent study by Dr Thomas Pollet, of Newcastle University, suggesting that rich men give their partners more orgasms surely also implies that monetarily challenged men deliver fewer climaxes. According to Dr Pollet, money is one of the main factors determining female sexual satisfaction. Are these theories contradictory? Does the recession create lust - or sap it? Does a lack of money lead to a raising of desire - or a lowering of sexual action? One possible theory to square the circle is - to misquote the famous line from Macbeth - is that recession "provokes the desire but takes away the performance". Maybe economic woes bring us together but then make us unable to enjoy the fruits of that bonding. If so, what to do? Knowles advises clear communication: "If you are too tired for sex, tell your partner why. If you suddenly go off sex or can't perform, being open is the best policy." Communication will not solve everything, however: if the problems continue, it could be you need more specialist help. It could be then that, instead of roses and chocolates for Valentine's this year, we ought to be handing our beloved an appointment card for a therapy session. Just a thought.

离乡背井 ：下雪咯！！！

古人有一句话说：六月飞霜，冤枉

我呢却想这么说：一月飞霜，很爽

今天，伦敦终于下起雪来了！！！ 昨天，当我从Bristol回伦敦的途中，从半睡不醒的状况中向外一望，哦，怎么到处倒是白茫茫一片的？当我把眼睛睁开，哗，是雪勒，下雪了，下雪了，终于下雪了！！！哗，看见那犹如棉花般柔嫩，又白皙的雪，慢慢的凋落，那种情景，特别诗意，特别舒服。

当然回到房间后，先得洗个澡麻，谁知，一刚刚洗完澡，那不知情的fire alarm响起，所有人都得离开现场。那我只好，随便穿了衣服就往外逃之夭夭咯，保命要紧！哈哈...外面是下着雪的，那既来之，着安之... 就顺起那不懂什么“怪风”玩起雪来了！！！ 好玩，好玩！！！ 噢，原来刚才的fire alarm 是一场“假”的意外...但是，无所谓了，有的玩雪麻，所以一切都值得的！！！

由于，今天的天气太差了，雪下得太大了，所以今天所有的课都被取消了，爽！！！爽！！！ 所以现在不就有时间写部落格啦！！！ 哈哈。。。

新一代厨神 ：新年“鱼生”

农历初七，人日，当然少不了要吃“鱼生”啦！！！

可是问题就是，“鱼生”已经不被中国人重视了，至今还有捞生的中国人可说是少之又少啊。今天，只剩下马来西亚及新加坡的华裔子弟，龙的传人还有捞生熟习。

因为如此，在伦敦唐人街是吃不到“鱼生”的，要吃还得通过一间杂货店预先订购，然后从马来西亚运输包装好的“鱼生”到这里来。当然，价钱也一定（便宜）很多咯！坐飞机来到英国的“鱼生”当然比较（cheap)的啦...

还好呢，刚刚由一位年轻有为的厨师，人称少年厨神的他，刚刚从大马到英国来，所以当然是由他来做(鱼生）咯...

各位观众，为你们介绍，由我们新一代少年厨神 - 李顺伟，亲手料理的“鱼生”称名为：“人人有余”！！！

各位观众，若你们想试试由我们李师傅亲手料理的“鱼生”，那请预先在http://www.xiaoqingwadetiankong.blogspot.com/ 订购。谢谢。
再此，我也代表我们少年厨神，向各位拜个年，恭祝大家，人人有余，万事如意，新年快乐！！！





以下是一些吃“鱼生”的重要步骤及准备"鱼生”的材料，共各位参考。
Today, this dish is served as an appetizer to raise 'good luck' for the new year and is usually eaten on Renri, the seventh day of the Chinese New Year. In a celebration known as "lo hei" (Cantonese 撈起 or 捞起), families and friends gather around the table and, on cue, proceed to toss the shredded ingredients into the air with chopsticks while saying "吉祥话" (Jíxiáng Huà, auspicious wishes) out loud to mark the start of a prosperous new year and it's customary that the higher you toss, the greater your fortunes!
Typical ingredients include: fresh salmon, daikon (white radish), carrot, red pepper (capsicum), ginger, daun limau nipis (lime tree leaves), Chinese parsley, chopped peanuts, toasted sesame seeds, Chinese shrimp crackers (or fried dried shrimp), five spice powder. The dressing is made primarily from plum sauce.

爱的语言 ： 新年传温情

炮竹声，响连天... 舞狮舞龙踩高跷...

财神到，财神到，财神到我家大门口...

每条大街小巷，每个人的嘴里，见面第一句话，就是恭喜恭喜...

相信，一连串的新年歌曲，到处歌声飞扬，满街挂满红灯笼，气氛一定很热闹吧！

所谓：每逢佳节配思亲， 就在这个佳节里特别想念‘家’... 一直以来，新年都是和家人，一般从小学就认识的朋友及佛友们一起庆祝，可是今年却没有这个机会了...

说真的，这里真的没有什么所谓的新年气氛，一点都不热闹。然而，新年嘛，无论如何都得庆祝庆祝嘛！在年二十九晚，一般以前一起就读 A-LEVEL 的朋友都来了我的住宿哪里一起吃团圆饭。

接下来呢，当然在年三十晚肯定的少不了再来一餐团圆饭嘛。所以当晚就到唐人街去大吃一顿了！！！

好了！！！ 年初一了，拿红包了！！！哈哈... 哎呀又忘了，今年的红包是会迟到的... 哈哈...

当然年初一嘛，一定要拜年啦，现在科技这么先进，就算你人在太空都可以向家人，向朋友拜年的！！！ SKYPE 是最好的咯！！！ 当然就以这个方式跟家人拜年咯，看见舅舅，阿姨们都回外公家，真的很开心，也有点纳闷，因为我没得回麻... 但不要紧，看到大家这么开心，个个身体健康就好了！！！当然，希望我家人会祝福我，支持我，好让我与最好的成绩毕业，回乡跟大家团聚团聚... 当然看到所有的家人都那么高兴，自己也很欣然咯...

哗，年初一，我也收到了一个很珍贵的礼物... 也令我很感动的一份礼物... 谢谢天赐，中权策划这个很有意义的新年大礼！谢谢所有在年初一有到天赐家的老朋友，谢谢你们，谢谢银浚，志伦，振贺，杰健，JIMMY，可伦，南达，康泳，淑桦，凌川，云洁，佩芬，赐玲，敏慧，等等（如有遗漏请勿见怪）谢谢你们聚在一起，跟我SKYPE好让我也能够跟你们聊聊天，拜拜年麻... 祝大家，身体健康，心想事成， 我们的友谊永固... 大家新年快乐！！！

我在此也祝所有我部落格的读者，所有人是我，小青蛙的朋友，吉辇佛教会的佛友们，大家恭喜发财，身体健康，事事顺利...

我游世界 ：爱尔兰之旅

I went to Ireland for a trip vacation during the last Christmas Holidays. Here are some pictures to share with my blog readers.

Ireland is really a nice place for naturalists!!! The sight-seeing in Ireland will bring you closet to the natural environment, I am pretty sure that you, a green lover will be astonished and fascinated by the picturesque scenery.

If the regular polls of departing travellers are to be believed, it's Ireland's timeless traditional side that continues to hold the key to the country’s draw as a tourist destination. At the heart of it all is the often breath­taking scenery, still gorgeous enough to make your jaw drop despite the best efforts of developers to scar some of the most beautiful bits with round­abouts, brutal suburbs and summer bungalows. From the lonely, wind-lashed wilderness of the Beara Peninsula to the awe-inspiring landscapes of County Derry, Ireland is one of the world’s most beautiful countries, and worth every effort you make to explore it. The sometimes overwhelming popularity of the scenic superstars like Connemara and Killarney National Park has seen the emergence of quieter idylls as the preferred destination of the discerning traveller, who has discovered the beauty of the lakes of County Roscommon, the villages of County Waterford and the rarely visited County Westmeath. Here you can come into contact with a more genuine Ireland, the kind removed from the slick machinery of the tourist trail. Of course, this does not mean you should miss Dublin: the pulsating capital has a soul and sociability unrivalled by any other European city.

The slow grind that resulted in the end of violence in Northern Ireland has meant that the province can finally go about showing to a much wider audience that it is just as beautiful and interesting as the rest of the island. In 2007, Lonely Planet’s Blue List put it in the world’s top 10 destinations to visit for good reason – the province has always had plenty to see, but IRA activity made the prospect of visiting a little daunting.

Given the troubled nature of its recent past, combined with all of the usual problems thrown up by any modern society, Ireland is no laid-back Utopia (that'd be boring anyway). But the fact remains that the Irish warmth and welcome is the real deal, and millions of visitors testify to the sheer ease with which they made friends here. Someone will stop and help you find your way when you’re standing on a corner gawking at a map; you will strike up a conversation if you’re sitting alone in a pub; and there is a very good chance that if you’re stuck somewhere a local will volunteer a lift to wherever you need to go. The Irish love complaining about their country – about the crappy weather, the horrible traffic, the unplanned construction, the venal corruption – and will swear to you that you’re the luckiest person on earth because you don’t have to live here, but they only do it because this is the greatest country on the planet. Make sense? Well, it does ­­here.

不说你不知 ：救星你在哪 ？？？

这个是一道IQ 问答题。 请各位读者在回答之前，勿寻出答案。答案就在本页。This is an IQ question. All readers, please do not proceed to the answer before attempt the question. The answer is given on the page.

题目：人有三急 。 请猜出你最想去参观的旅游胜地。 Question : Where should you be heading to when your tank is full.

答案：公共厕所 Answer : public toilet

说来可怜。圣诞节当晚，为了要送我一位好友回家，结果我必须在寒冷的夜里逛了四个半小时。Pitty me so to say. During the Christmas night, the gang and me would like to send one of the dudes to his apartment. Ended up, we walked in the cold at night for about 4 and half-hours. 原因，在圣诞节那天英国是没有公共交通服务的。所以需要靠十一号巴士了咯！如果你觉得我很可怜的话，就请笑一个！ The reason is, there were no any public transport services during the Christmas day in England. Therefore, the only reliable transport vehicle is ( coach number 11 ），it means walking. If you think that I was pitty, then plese give me a warm smile.如果这时可怜，那当时送他回家时，是凌晨一点钟！这应该更可怜巴，所以请在笑大声一点！这还不够可怜呢，应为那时的温度是零。。。所以笑大声点吧！！！Moreover, it was 1 am when we walked him back to his apartment, this should be poorer right? So please do not hesitate to laugh. The worse case is, when we were walking on the street, the temperature was just nice, 0 celcius. 可是，你知道吗，当时太冷了，我的“积水器”也装满了。想找个厕所却怎么找也找不到。。。嗨。。。可怜。。。 真的气死我了！！！But do you know that, it was so cold and my tank waas fully filled at that time. Oh gosh...what a coincidence right? It was really hard to find a public toilet.

有人说，老人：气可以忍，尿不可以忍 ；少年：尿可以忍，气不能忍 ！！！可是我却又想尿尿，又气的···真的很难受叻！！！ 一个这么先进，又曾经统治无数小国的英国，在其首都，伦敦想找个公厕却难如登天！走了两个多小时才找到，但找到了却有点可笑，原来上面那张图片就是公厕。。。哈哈。。。每用一次公厕，都得交裞。。 20p 就是马币RM1.20 哈哈。。。很便宜吧！！！What a shame I would say, it was so difficult to find a public toilet in the world busiest city,london city. It cost me to walk for more than 2 hours in order to get a public toilet. OMG...

公厕真的少之又少，旅客请小心，最好随身携带尿片。。。哈哈。。。The fact is, there are jsut a few public WC in the city, for tourists, you are advised to bring along the napkins..hehe...

但这些公厕还蛮酷的！！！那个门是自动开关的，一旦用完厕所，会自动清洗，会自动喷香水，会自动帮你抹屁股。。。开玩笑的啦。。那公厕麻雀虽小但五脏齐全。所以还是马来西亚好，公厕很多，可惜的是公厕被滥用，被破坏。After all, the public toilets in london are all sophisticated desinged and using the high technology service. After u put in the 20p coin, the door will aotomatically open for you, once you have done with your business, the toilet bowl will be aotomatically flushed. After you came out from th WC, it will took a minute to clean up the toilet and spray some fragant before the service is pass onto the next customer. Cool right? On the other hand, eventhough Malaysia have a lot of public toilets available for the people to use, but most of them are spoiled and out of service as the result of vandalism.

p/s ：请各界人士珍惜公共设施！为你身边的人着想，请爱护“厕所”。

p/s : To all members, please do not damage the public facilities for the sake of your love one.